Over the past few weeks I’ve spoken to several of my friends regarding the subject of remaining friends with their ex. Of course it’s no shock that more men find it perfectly acceptable to remain friends with their past lovers than women. In fact, every man I spoke with said they seen no issue in remaining friends with their ex’s, but their current girlfriend had issues with it. Personally, I’m on the fence with this one. I say this because for the most part I AM friends with majority of my ex’s. A few of them are happily married and I am welcomed in their home. I don’t find this awkward at all since the relationship has long since passed and there are no romantic feelings lingering. But here’s where it gets sticky. I have a few ex’s that still like to send the ‘occasional’ “Hey I miss u” text or what’s up with us rolling around in the hay one more gin! And IF I respond whether in agreement or disagreement I’m wrong. If I’m in a committed relationship there is no way I should have those type of texts or conversations going on and furthermore I shouldn’t communicate with someone who carries on in this manner KNOWING damn well I have a man.
With that being said I can understand why some sista’s get a lil agitated at the notion their man is chopping it up with a single ex. The fact is IF you are friends with an ex then they should be friends with your current partner as well. The problem with men is they tend to ‘hide’ certain facts of their friendships from their significant others. I speak purely from experience. I’m friends with my ex and we share a child in common. His current girlfriend has always had an issue with our relationship because my ex from time to time would send inappropriate texts and I would respond. It was disrespectful on both our parts. In saying that… respect your significant other; don’t carry on ‘friendships’ from the past in secret. And ladies don’t be so insecure. That pushes a man away. There is nothing wrong with maintaining healthy friendships from our past as long as it remains exclusively a FRIENDSHIP….it doesn’t get more butt naked than that folks!