Can Black love survive the interracial influx?

Can Black love survive the interracial influx?

 

 

 

It’s come to my attention by way of SEVERAL male companions that they are now ‘off’ dating black women. Interracial dating isn’t a new phenomena,however the amount of interracial couples has more than doubled over the past 20 years. I recall when I was a child, back in the 80s; it wasn’t uncommon for me to be the only mixed child in the classroom. My mother was the only white lady on our block with a black husband and in fact I never realized she was white until I was 10 years old and another child brought it to my attention while teasing me. So is black love dead!? I’d like to think not; but why are black men now dating ‘other’ races in droves?

Over the weekend I had an opportunity to share some moments with a dear male companion of mine. Ive been close friends with this man for almost 7 years and upon our getting to know one another, he candidly shared his experience with mixed or light skin women like myself as a young man. In his experience, women of my complexion were less than flattering to him and even condescending. I found this a tad odd since I’ve always been quite fond of my darker brothers. So imagine my surprise when he confided that he’s now ‘off black girls’ completely and exclusively dating Latina chicks. Now me being me; I probed further… I wanted to know WHY! Especially since I’m now the last ‘black’ woman he deals with on a social scheme…

Consequently, I don’t consider myself a black woman as I came from a white woman… Even though my father is black; as I’ve grown older I’ve learned to love and appreciate ALL that I’m mixed with and identify with them wholly not individually … But for the sake of argument; I’m half black therefore making me the only ‘black’ chick he’s fooling with nowadays …

Before I move forward with his reasoning on why he’s ‘off’ black woman let me provide some brief background on this cat. He’s not a deadbeat! He has a successful career, no children, extremely handsome and in great shape. I say this because men of different backgrounds usually look for certain types of women. This is a brotha who has his Ish together and is looking for the same in a woman!

Onto the good stuff! The first reason he cited as why he’s not dating black women anymore is in his words ‘ they are on some bulls?&t’ …when asked to elaborate he went on to say that black women were trying to take advantage of him. They were not nurturing or accommodating. They took but rarely gave. I asked him to describe the difference when dating Latina chicks. He said its night and day… Latina chicks are nurturing. When he goes out on dates with them they almost always offer to pay; and he clarified ‘NOT’ that he expects a woman to pay, but the mere thought and effort is duly noted. These women will bring him homemade food without prompting and in the bedroom he’s lacking for nothing! He concluded that he’s NEVER had this experience with a black woman!

That was a lot to take in! I contemplated for several moments his words… And feelings and recalled another dear friend of mine whom also exclusively dates only mixed or Latina women. He gave the same reasoning. It made me feel a bit sad and a slight bit angry! Here I am a mixed woman and I’m very much all of those things that they both described… But I’ve also heard some of my black girlfriends describe that type of chick as ‘stupid’ and gullible’ and in the past that has caused me to be less than accommodating to the man I loved and I almost lost him. I want to get down to the butt naked truth of this issue… Are black women less accommodating than ‘others’ and if so … why!? I know plenty of black women and I have to say almost all of them are single …. Is this a contributing factor!? Please keep in mind I’m not agreeing or disagreeing… I’m simply stating information that has been given to me directly from the mouths of our black men! Is black love alive and if not can it be resurrected! ?? Bring me your buttnakedness on this! Lets go!


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8 thoughts on “Can Black love survive the interracial influx?

  1. The Black men that use this excuse is ridiculous. Here’s the thing, if a white, or Latino, Asian, etc, man dates the females in their race and it doesn’t work out, that woman is not going to be judged because of their race. That man will simply find another mate that is more to his liking.It’s mainly Blacks that do this to each other because 400 years of Willie Lynch is not easy to erase. Self hatred continues to keep Black folks from moving forward and becoming a unified force to be reckoned with. Furthermore, if I hate the skin I’m in, how can I love yours?

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  2. Oh I forgot to mention that this brotha that I work with that lives the “only dates Latina” creed rewards his woman’s nurturing , home cooked meals by hitting on every Latina that moves.

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  3. Angie: what is your solution to this issue..Do you become more nurturing or do you stay the same? How do we correct the issue that you see? Is it just his fault?

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  4. Why are black bitches fucking other races in droves… Being voluntarily whored by as many nonbm who are willing. Then when bw wanna play victim its “the bm” to blame. Desirable bw dont even give most bm a chance to do them right OR WRONG. On top they mostly help the worlds attempts in defeating bm in general. Plus love bowing publicly to whites and expect bm to still honor love & want them. Fuck all the way outta here w/that bunk bs

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  6. Hello Leona,Did you write this post just so you can use a lot of Black Swan? he he. Reminded me of Toastmaster meetings gtenitg us to try to use the word (or words) of the day. :)I wander if anything can 解釋愛情. 🙂 Imagine a world where we never meet our better half for the first time (by not go to that party, take that job, take that class, etc) our life would have been changed totally.So Black Swan or not, we are all lucky to have met our better halves as our lives will be totally different without them.

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